You thought he was the love of your life - but recently things haven't been quite so fairytale romance. Is it a comfortable couple rut or time to move on?
Here's the 10 signs that your relationship has run its course.
You can't bear him to touch you.
We're not talking about feigning a headache when you're not in the mood, or those sex lulls that every couple has. If the thought of him even holding your hand makes your skin crawl, it's almost impossible to recover from. If everything else is still going well, it's time to take an urgent look at why this physical intimacy repulses you – and consider counselling. Otherwise, you need to have that talk...
You leave notes on the fridge instead of sitting down to chat.
We all lead hectic lives – but if you're talking through magnetic letters (or texts, emails and post-it notes), that's not a relationship, that's a house-share. Chances are you're both busy leading your own lives already without space for the other. Best case scenario? Tell him you want to spend more time together. And do it face to face.
He calls you someone else's name.
In bed, over toast, wherever. Unless there's a seriously good excuse (and amnesia is the only one that springs to mind), he's already moved on. Whether it's an ex, the new colleague he's been babbling about or Megan Fox, if he's not thinking about you, why waste your time?
His Facebook status says 'It's complicated'.
Take the hint...
He irritates you constantly.
Remember all those cute little habits he had when you first got together? The ones which now make you grit your teeth? No, he hasn't got more annoying - your love blindness has lifted and you're seeing his adorable quirks the way the rest of us do.
You don't want to arrange a holiday. For next month.
Unless it's a money issue, there's a reason you don't want to commit to any future plans – you're not expecting to be there. In which case, why wait?
You're always sneering at him – or vice versa.
Every relationship needs to be able to make fun of itself from time to time, but if you're putting him down, it's only going to get worse. Contempt is one of the most corrosive emotions, and why would you stay with someone you don't respect?
When you go out, it's only to the cinema.
Who doesn't love a good film? But every date? You might as well say, I don't want to talk to you any more – so there's nothing else to say except byeeee.
He's not your honeybun any more.
OK, so pet names make the rest of us feel nauseous, but whether you're out and proud about your cuddle-bear or a secret fan of your lovemuffin, once these terms of endearment start to disappear, it can be a sign the feelings have slipped away too.
He didn't call to say he wasn't coming home last night – and you weren't bothered.
Seriously? No images of him wrapped around another woman, or lying injured in a ditch? There's nothing wrong with a night out with the lads, but if you're not fussed when he fails to reappear without a word, why are you even together?
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Saturday 19 June
By susie
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Well you have just settled my mind, as all of the above apply to me. I just couldnt see it for myself. thanks.
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Sunday 20 June
By CC
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We have gone waaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy past this, so I guess it really is time to go it alone.
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Sunday 20 June
By terry betchley
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well i guess its over for us then... facebook status is only for kids tho i thought.
im male and these signs work both ways. thnx for your help and confirmation.
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Sunday 20 June
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My boyfriend wanted to go on Holiday and so I helped him organise it and now suddenly he doesn't want to go no more. As well as other things on here whats happening. So guess its time to call it quits :) Thanx for help
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Sunday 20 June
By Grumbles
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God! Listen to you lot. What a miserable bunch of moaners.
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Sunday 20 June
By Jerome Peter
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If the kind of women who take notice of this rubbish had any brains, they would realise tha these articles are mostly aimed at one thing and that is what the mainstream media, women's magazines, agony aunts, 'debate' shows, more recently the internet and the man bashing disease of feminism has generally sought for over forty years.....destroy relationships between men and women, by persauding women with articles to believe that their relationship is doomed.
Any excuse to cheat or find another man for sex is what these ****-stirring quizes amount to. This is not advice, it's sly malicious stirring. Luckily for me, as I recognise that the vast majority of women hate men, period, having observed the man hating filth women are addicted to via the advertising industry, dramas, 'comedies' and TV in general, plus all the above mentioned things, I would never have a relationship with a Britidsh woman that consisted of anything more than, you have your place, I'll have mine, you do what you want and I'll do what (and who) I want. Want more? Then get lost and find it elswhere.
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Tuesday 06 July
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scuse me but why is it always men that get the blame.been in a relationship with a lass who i happened to love very much and we even had plans to get engaged . i was fine with the parents as well but for some reason the sister hated me and as the relationship progressed the more difficult her sister became, to the point where she was making it difficult for the two of us two see each other.any way my girlfriend said to me im going to be going on holiday with my sister and my comment was i bet you go away and i never hear from you again and low and behold that is what has happened .
I loved her dearly i did everythng i could for her ,but in the end her sister broke up the relationship. so ladies please, less of the men bashing.
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Wednesday 07 July
By Hugh
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Relationships are never simple nor are they ever wholly one-sided. Perhaps, I said perhaps, women have a feeling that they should conform to "an ideal image of femininity" (This is debatable!!) And men are, traditionally the "rovers". In, not a perfect relationship but an living ordidinary relationship what the man and the women learn if they are patient and "canny" is that they both need to be prepared to change. My experience is that when both parties agree to change and grow each receives something back that is vastly bigger and better than what was given or reading the above surreneded with a grudge! If you think you are so wonderful that you won't ever change then goodbye you are obviously on the planet called Never-neverland!"!!
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Sunday 20 June
By gump
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We last had sex on Christmas Eve................1998, so I guess things aint really fine in the sex department, but I hadn't thought anything of it until you pointed it out !!
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Sunday 20 June
By gumpNeutralReportPositiveNegative
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"We last had sex on Christmas Eve................1998, so I guess things aint really fine in the sex department, but I hadn't thought anything of it until you pointed it out !!"
Many have had sex.....But so few have made love!
Ian
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Sunday 20 June
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Much of what Cathy Winston has written applies to me but when I decide to get on top of my man or get him between my legs he still makes it work for me ... so what's the rush?
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Sunday 20 June
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I did think i met my soul mate for life after 2 marriages and divorces, he was wonderful, didnt smoke , drink, swear! or so he told me, 2/3 months down the line i found out he did all 3, such a liar, apart from all his debts he also kept quiet until 3 months after he moved in with me. I knew something was not right, he never came near me, wasnt same man i met,I told him to move in back bedroom, as with his filthy habits of spitting everywhere and up and down all night smoking, he was driving me mad, he said he wanted to move out! as he didnt want the bailiffs knocking at my door for him, because he owed money to every body.things slowly went downhill even quicker after that, he moved out in january because i told him i wanted him out, he wasnt using me or my home anymore. and reading this, it is just so the same as what happened. I GOT SHUT OF HIM WELL B4 , THINGS GOT ANY WORSE.
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Sunday 20 June
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Don't you people have your own brain?
People baffle me - is everyone left in the world completely brain washed.
People are that self centred and fake.Stepford wifes and sheep don't really stimulate for more than 5 minutes
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